tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post6694267294315798915..comments2024-03-28T14:16:51.745+05:30Comments on Known Turf: A quiet kind of heroismAnnie Zaidihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08687223598027157611noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-11496973868417853702007-03-24T17:07:00.000+05:302007-03-24T17:07:00.000+05:30Such a well written post & spoiled by this useless...Such a well written post & spoiled by this useless argument. Totally takes away from the beauty of the writing. What is it with feminists???1conoclasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10114255456767684236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-39620194344430765912007-03-21T15:41:00.000+05:302007-03-21T15:41:00.000+05:30I had a 70:30 kind of feeling on reading BNP. agre...I had a 70:30 kind of feeling on reading BNP. agree about 70%. The 30% confusion is:<BR/><BR/>1. ambivalence towards "kya dekh rahe ho?" <BR/><BR/>but I have come to appreciate that girls seriously expect to hold the rights on one-way looking wise.<BR/><BR/>2. some want to suddenly sing /dance in public, do anything crazy. Guys who did that would be stared at too. I actually believe that women Jai_Choorakkothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11795629014937167288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-77218608977521899702007-03-21T10:43:00.000+05:302007-03-21T10:43:00.000+05:30Did say no more comments but, to respond to Annie:...Did say no more comments but, to respond to Annie:<BR/><BR/>- there is something un-fair abt wanting to look but not be looked at. The best way to go abt this is to concede the un-fairness (as I think you are doing) but explain it as you have done.<BR/><BR/>- I know beforehand the why of the unfairness but it helps to come out with it anyway than to leave it implicit/ assumed.<BR/><BR/>- On Jai_Choorakkothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11795629014937167288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-25865722738379238242007-03-17T23:56:00.000+05:302007-03-17T23:56:00.000+05:30u can go aheadu can go aheadAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03601320863124184717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-47961137398756492272007-03-12T16:52:00.000+05:302007-03-12T16:52:00.000+05:30unmana, jay sun, perspective, sowmya, pawan: thank...unmana, jay sun, perspective, sowmya, pawan: thanks<BR/><BR/>bluespriite: no, you didn't interrupt this. this was much earlier in the evening. am not brave enough to attempt this past midnight. yet.<BR/><BR/>space bar: yes, though of course, not as well as you seemed to know her. she taught us in journalism college. I remember, she gifted me a copy of 'six' once, when she realised I was keen on Annie Zaidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08687223598027157611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-13745592990393855952007-03-11T00:12:00.000+05:302007-03-11T00:12:00.000+05:30Like Jai, I also have at times favored the _female...Like Jai, I also have at times favored the _female gut instinct_ more than my own. And it bothers me only a bit. For a society to be truly pluralistic and free ...<BR/><BR/>There are some soft-spoken guys being treated in a manner different from what would have been if they were more aggressive. I see sexual harassment in the light of unfair power play.<BR/><BR/>In the work place (even in Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-69124500971569697842007-03-10T22:36:00.000+05:302007-03-10T22:36:00.000+05:30That's the spirit. Admire you, as always.That's the spirit. Admire you, as always.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-62717392387456383872007-03-09T17:42:00.000+05:302007-03-09T17:42:00.000+05:30Part of the problem, for guys like me, is the famo...Part of the problem, for guys like me, is the famous female gut instinct.<BR/><BR/>We trust it more than we trust our own (mine Im pretty sure is as lazy as the rest of me) so when a lady goes into (or is already in) 'defence' we assign more credibility to her than we do to ourselves.<BR/><BR/>I would like to know, (if anybody is still reading this, that is) if the female gut instinct is ever Jai_Choorakkothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11795629014937167288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-61385093540142737332007-03-09T17:11:00.000+05:302007-03-09T17:11:00.000+05:30" .... to pass by as if they are a man? you wouldn..." .... to pass by as if they are a man? you wouldnt notice anything then"<BR/><BR/>Good rephrase but the assumption behind it doesnt work.<BR/><BR/>Actually I do acknowledge/ nod at male strangers and even a smile or half-greeting when I see them a little regularly, though they are still strangers in every other sense.<BR/><BR/>I notice mannerisms, gait, walking speed, how he/they look, how they Jai_Choorakkothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11795629014937167288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-57892736086101101942007-03-09T16:15:00.000+05:302007-03-09T16:15:00.000+05:30annie: brilliant. a wonderful way of explaining ho...annie: brilliant. a wonderful way of explaining how evn enjoying ur most basic rights needs a constant "quiet kind" of fighting.<BR/><BR/>Jai: to add to wat u said: <BR/><I>to preserve your dignity, the safest thing with women on the street is to pass by as if they dont exist.</I> <BR/>how about rephrasing that as: <BR/>.... to pass by as if they are a man? You wud'nt be noticing so many things the beinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06370459142520110673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-4777176218974577762007-03-09T13:10:00.000+05:302007-03-09T13:10:00.000+05:30Addendum to my guide-for-guys:2a. to preserve your...Addendum to my guide-for-guys:<BR/><BR/>2a. to preserve your dignity, the safest thing with women on the street is to pass by as if they dont exist. <BR/><BR/>- do not nod/ greet/ smile / acknowledge.<BR/><BR/>- You should not look and be clearly seen to be not looking at them.<BR/><BR/>- If you cannot avoid it(eg. a woman is in your direct line of sight) dont look away (shifty eyes are Jai_Choorakkothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11795629014937167288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-41922670865997464042007-03-09T11:49:00.000+05:302007-03-09T11:49:00.000+05:30I just finished reading your "street strategies" a...I just finished reading your "street strategies" and it was a real shock to me, even though I know something about the hassles on the roads that women face.<BR/><BR/>Here is another take on this from the male perspective. I absolutely agree that none of these following points are anywhere near comparable with what you guys face.<BR/><BR/>1. I have occasionally been rather irritated when I observeJai_Choorakkothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11795629014937167288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-18433622467729918012007-03-08T19:57:00.000+05:302007-03-08T19:57:00.000+05:30Loved the image this conjures up!Loved the image this conjures up!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-49430118430433857832007-03-08T18:44:00.000+05:302007-03-08T18:44:00.000+05:30Annie, this is OT, but I didn't know you knew Reva...Annie, this is OT, but I didn't know you knew Revathy. It's a small world, if w eonly know all the conenctions that bring us together. I still can't get over it...Space Barhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08251329008160756254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-14007459930852507332007-03-08T13:13:00.000+05:302007-03-08T13:13:00.000+05:30Happy women's day.. and dont tell me... my sms int...Happy women's day.. and dont tell me... my sms interrupted this?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-9902057962208588152007-03-08T11:49:00.000+05:302007-03-08T11:49:00.000+05:30NICE!!!NICE!!!Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04558049479312997467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-1691483970954331472007-03-08T10:55:00.000+05:302007-03-08T10:55:00.000+05:30Happy Woman's Day :)Have a great year !Happy Woman's Day :)<BR/><BR/>Have a great year !Jay Sunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08617579343335812849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9939966.post-47322072994894957522007-03-07T20:09:00.000+05:302007-03-07T20:09:00.000+05:30Bravo.Bravo.Unmanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02430139387595895191noreply@blogger.com